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Learning From Child Abuse Survivor Stories

By Michelle Howe


People who have survived traumatic circumstances often want to help others avoid or overcome similar events in their lives. Finding happiness after a childhood filled with neglect and abuse can be difficult if people have no one to look to or learn from as they rebuild their lives. Listening to others' child abuse survivor stories can give people the courage to rebuild their futures and realize that they had no fault in what happened to them. They may find the strength to be happy and live productive lives.

As adults reflect on their past trauma, they might think about the times that they were ignored or disbelieved. It is not uncommon for many adolescent victims to be accused of making up lies and trying to get their abuser in trouble for no reason. Other trusted figures, like parents, teachers, and coaches, may place the blame on them rather than the abusive individual. This disbelief especially takes place when the abuser is someone the whole community trusts and likes.

Being accused of lying and having others not believe them may lead victims to become depressed, withdrawn, and resigned to their abusive circumstances. They may refuse to fight back, but rather submit to the mistreatment with the belief that no one else cares about what happens to them. When they reach adulthood, this despondency might be a firmly ingrained behavior that prevents them from realizing true happiness.

Even so, hearing someone else tell their account of survival can help a victim find new hope. This individual may learn that his or her abuser, despite being a respected community figure, was entirely to blame and in control of the events. Learning that someone else went through similar circumstances and still was able to lead a product life afterward can help that victim find the courage to face the past and discover the determination to let that part of his or her life go.

Many victims include professional counseling in their rebuilding process. They may come to realize that they cannot escape their pasts without an empathetic professional who is trained to help survivors cope with their past traumas. Counseling can last for months or years, depending on how long it takes someone to reach that point of objectivity to realize that he or she is not to blame and had no control over what happened to him or her.

Thus, people may wonder where they can hear or read a story of someone's survival. Many places are considered ideal for finding these accounts. Many survivors write novels detailing their accounts. These novels can be found in bookstores, libraries, or other places where books are available. Many novels that touch on this matter get a fair amount of publicity.

Survivors also can read these accounts online. Many websites now exist that allow people to go online and tell others about what happened to them. This online approach may be considered therapeutic and help readers cope with their pasts.

Survivors of traumatic childhoods may rely on child abuse survivor stories as models of optimism and hope. These accounts can teach victims that their futures do not have to be tied to their pasts. They can move on and lead lives that are happy, productive, and void of the trauma and neglect that marked their earlier years. They may even be able to forgive their abusers.




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